Remembering Doria

One Father's Journey after the Death of his Daughter


I’m a PhD student working on the story of the abolition of slavery in the United States. I teach at Iowa State University as well as Fairview Baptist Bible College in Jamaica (the island paradise. Really!).

I graduated from Faith Baptist Theological Seminary with a Master of Divinity in May 2005. I attend and serve at CrossRoad Baptist Church in Ames, IA.

I am an avid and obsessive fan of the Iowa State Cyclones and Chicago Cubs. I like pain 🙂

I am a husband of 11 years.

I am the father of a beautiful, stillborn baby girl.

This blog is my story as I navigate through the painful times of grieving my little girl while carrying on, and learning in a way that I never expected to how my faith relates to my life. I hope it’s helpful!


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  1. You have been nominated for the Liebster Award. To learn about the rules for this award, please go to Congrats! 🙂


  2. Hi Erik,

    I interviewed Stephanie Coleman who founded “Sweet Pea” after the loss of her stillborn child, Madeline. I interviewed her for my blog at

    I thought I’d reach out and suggest her as a resource for healing, understanding and possible collaboration.

    I send you blessings and love, my friend.

  3. Hey there. I noticed you followed my blog the other day and thought I’d pop back here and say Hi. I must say, I didn’t expect this, but I’m so glad I found it. 🙂 Thank you for writing. My husband and I lost our son back in June. It’s been hard. I am going to make sure my husband sees your site, because you are so right: there isn’t anything out there for fathers. Which I think is a travesty. Fathers hurt just as much as mothers do, albeit in different ways.

    There are so many other things I could say or talk about, but I just want to thank you again for writing and speaking out. As I navigate my path of grief over my son, I’m finding that these types of things happen more often than you’d think — but people aren’t talking about them. And they NEED to be. So thank you.

    Best wishes.

    • Thanks, Heather!
      It’s always good when it’s hitting the mark 🙂

      Our first night in the hospital, waiting for Doria (even though we already knew), I went Internet searching because I wanted to know just what happened.

      I didn’t really know this happened to anybody, much less that there is an army of us. Thanks for your writing, too. Let’s keep it up!

      Also, I should say, anything I can actually do, say the word! My wife and I will chat or do anything we can.

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