Becky and I were talking about things like this, and trying to think going forward about how to help people when they enter the club. It’s becoming something that we think about a lot more as time goes on. She has a really nice thing written for a women’s group, and that made me wonder, “What about helping men?”
We suffer in this, but in a different way. Most people reading stuff like this have been around a guy who suffered the loss, but helping us is different. This is just a preliminary idea, but something that might help people who want to help a grieving man. Some of it’s pretty direct and blunt, but that’s the idea. You’ll notice a theme here. At least from experience, I think there’s a most important thing to note here.
1. Spend time with him. Like Job’s friends for the first 7 days, be there and listen. Let him know you care by being there. It’s tempting to try and say something, but speaking doesn’t do much. Nobody cares how much you know until they know how much you care. Do the most important thing first. Be there.