Remembering Doria

One Father's Journey after the Death of his Daughter


The Grammar of Grief

Given that our toolkit is sadly empty when it comes to consoling, comforting and caring for the grieving, some grief education helps. When we understand that we can make a huge difference in the life of a grieving friend, family member or neighbor, we’re motivated to make the effort to equip ourselves so we’re never at a loss for words again. Firstly, we don’t need to avoid the grieving just because we don’t know what to say or how to say it right. It’s nobody’s fault. Nobody taught us how to do it. And yet, the grieving are fragile and feel abandoned when everyone abruptly exits the lunch room or gets really busy with their cell phones when they enter the space.

Be authentic and acknowledge the elephant in the room. A simple, heartfelt “I really don’t know what to say” goes a long way in opening up the space for compassion and conversation. When…

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  1. Erik- you writing here is incredible. Your depth of sharing your feelings and observations is very moving. I couldn’t help but tear up as I was reading. I would like to link it with my men’s grief blog: Let me know if is okay. Thanks, Tim Heller.

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